I thought we should start by telling you how we met, but I have just been sitting here staring at my computer trying to find where to start. It all happened so fast, but regardless, I was never nervous about the pace. It always felt right, it always felt like I was in the right place, exactly how every one says it should be. It was instant, an instant connection, feeling like we have been best friends forever. Looking back at our story, it is clear there was someone much bigger than us guiding it along. It started in Jan, at a munch-n-mingle of all things. I always made fun of those activities, never thinking they actually helped marriage along... I should think before I speak from now on. I was with a bunch of friends, and he just randomly joined in our conversation. I remember first thinking how random he was because this voice just came out of nowhere. The second thought - he was gorgeous, but I seriously didn't think I stood a chance. I stayed after church for about an hour! With church being from 1-4pm, you can imagine how I am always eager to get home. But I stayed, and I talked, I tried getting him to talk.. asking questions.. laughing at his jokes... guys like these things. I couldn't understand why I was trying so hard, but there was just something about him that intrigued me. My efforts - all for nothing. As our conversation came to a close.. No phone number. No nothing. I went home and talked complete trash on him, because since he is so gorgeous.. Surely he must be into himself. "The guy who doesn't follow through" is something I remember calling him. I still laugh at it all! One month later...
I'm in big bear, another ward activity, go figure. I wasn't even going to go until last min. The chances of him being in my cabin Saturday morning were so slim, but there he was when I came up the stairs. I honestly was shocked because he lives in Santa Barbara. The fact that I met him in my own ward was already strange, but then to be in my ward again.. but in big bear? Strange. I wasn't really willing to talk that much because in my mind he was the guy who never follows through, so I smiled, said hello, and left. That night we had a big activity and I was talking to my friends, and he comes up behind me.. much like the first time we met.. and we start talking. Exact same chemistry as before, exact same feelings as before, it was like nothing changed. Yes, he finally got my number. We hung out all night, as well as all Sunday the next day. I knew it was working, but I had no idea what to expect...
Sunday we talked, Monday we talked, Tuesday we talked... I couldn't get enough of him, but then again he called me first.. and he kept the conversation going more than I did at times. It was incredible to be chased. Wed came ... Wednesday I was supposed to go to Utah to visit another guy I was sort of seeing. He knew this. He encouraged me not to. So here we had known each other for about 5 days, but yet it was much more than that. I thought long and hard about this other guy, compared them, analyzed the best situation.. but I could not get my thoughts off Rob. He makes me laugh more than anyone, and things with him have never been complicated. He makes the most complicated situation seem like a breeze. I knew I couldn't live without that. I knew there was more to this than I thought... My plane was to leave at about 4.. I was supposed to leave at like 2pm. I didn't call my mom until 12pm to tell her I wasn't going. I called Rob, and he first asked if I was happy, and then asked what I was doing for dinner. That night he drove 3 hours just to take me to dinner. He didn't get home till about 4am, with 8am work. I couldn't believe it. No one had ever gone to that much effort for me.
When Did I know?
I always knew.. But I guess I could pinpoint it to a night at Denny's after a Huntington beach Dance, yet again another church activity. We were with some friends who weren't very happy with each other, but we barely noticed because we were in our own world, and it always seems to be that way. We laughed so much that night.. and we talked a lot after that late dinner. We talked about everything. It was such a simple night, but yet I knew I would marry him. I kissed him goodbye and I just knew. But then again.. I seriously think I always knew. Meeting his family was also a big part of it, not really the first time I knew, but definitely something that confirmed things. I have never felt more comfortable, more myself, they are like an extension of my own family. Meeting them, seeing his support system, growing to love them, has only made me love him more. And now here we are, getting married. I have never been more grateful, and I am the luckiest girl to have found someone so special to me. Big bear, thank you.
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